For the record, I am NOT a man.  However, I deal with the same issues.  I don't wear stilletos (sp?) to work.  I found it quite a task to find comfortable dress shoes.

But I was fortunate to find a brand called Birkenstock.  They have a company called "Footprints" that they make shoes under.  I think they are German based.  The toe box are wider in some shoes which is common with German shoes.  My loafers are very comfortable that I can walk/stand in them all day.  The only bad things about them is that they were almost $200 a pair.

Actually,

 

All of my dress shoes are Bruno Magli simply because I find them more comfortable than the other brands.

 

If you don't need to go super-snazzy, and can shell out the big bucks, NOTHING is as comfy as Mephistos.  I wear their sandals and casual shoes and nothing even comes close, for my feet, anyway.

 

Also, far less expensive and really comfortable, for me, and pretty stylin' are Geox.

 

You mentioned Cole Haans.  Those are nice.  So are SOO many other brands.  I would just find a price range you are comfortable with and then find shoes that fit well and look good.  We are guys.  No one asks us who makes out shoes! 

for mail order look at Zappos.  Free delivery, NEXT day, and free returns.

Prices not bad either.

 

Alen Edmonds are great.  Have a pair that wear like iron.